Why Trusting Yourself can be So Hard

“Just trust yorself” is a suggestion that I am sure many of us have been told over the years and yet it is one of the hardest things to do. It is true that deep down we all know what to do in any given situation, and the answers are always inside of us, yetContinue reading “Why Trusting Yourself can be So Hard”

Why You Should Stop Speaking to People out of Obligation.

We have heard many times that the experiences that take place in our lives from the ages of 0-7 can have a profound effect on the adult that we become, but we sometimes forget the extent of that. If you grew up in a home that was enmeshed, had weak boundaries, or your boundaries andContinue reading “Why You Should Stop Speaking to People out of Obligation.”

Stop Feeling Like You Need Permission to Feel Your Feelings-

It can be so easy to ignore your feelings, and feel as though you are not justified in having them unless there is someone else who agrees with you. As we are social creatures it is understandable that if we have a problem we may want to talk it through with someone, but this becomesContinue reading “Stop Feeling Like You Need Permission to Feel Your Feelings-“

Why Am I So Disposable to the Narcissist?

This is a question that many people are left asking themselves after being in a relationship with a narcissist; this is not exclusive to romantic relationships, the same feeling can occur in friendships or with family members. It can be particularly interesting when you want to end the relationship and agonise for months over howContinue reading “Why Am I So Disposable to the Narcissist?”

Lockdown With a Narcissist

Living with a narcissist is challenging and painful. I would compare it to being in the boxing ring with an invisible enemy. You love your partner and do your best to please them yet you keep getting blind sided by blows that you could not see coming. This is due to the fact that theContinue reading “Lockdown With a Narcissist”

Changes to Expect when Becoming Your Authentic Self

I believe that becoming your authentic self is one of our main reasons for being on this planet. Know and truly loving yourself is the best foundation to have, and then from that basis the rest of your life can be built. For most people we were not able to be our authentic self fromContinue reading “Changes to Expect when Becoming Your Authentic Self”

Wisdom from ‘The Human Magnet Syndrome’

I read’The Human Magnet Syndrome’ by Ross Rosenberg a few years ago now, and I recently re-read it as I believe books always have more to offer on the second read, and you sometimes find that the book evolves with you and has wisdom to offer you at different stages in your life. This bookContinue reading “Wisdom from ‘The Human Magnet Syndrome’”

Codependency and Parenting

Codependency is commonly associated with being emotionally dependent on others. Humans are dependent and social creatures, which is fine, the problems begin when there is an imbalance and we rely on other’s for our sense of self worth and constantly need validation. It is important that recovering codependents are aware of their boundaries and ensureContinue reading “Codependency and Parenting”

Break the Pattern of Enmeshment in your Parenting

Enmeshed relationships, also referred to as unboundaried bonding, begin early in a child’s life. The parent can appear to be loving and provides their child with attention and love, but this love comes with many conditions (which would lead some to argue if this can be described as love). This behaviour may be unconscious onContinue reading “Break the Pattern of Enmeshment in your Parenting”

Tips for Codependents and Empaths During Stressful Times

Codependents often come from dysfunctional homes where they do not feel seen or heard. They have been victims of childhood abuse either emotional, physical or both, and suffered from being ignored, harshly criticised, abandoned, left in compromising situations and generally have felt unprotected. As a result of this their needs went unmet, and they hadContinue reading “Tips for Codependents and Empaths During Stressful Times”