I am so happy to share with you guys that I finally finished writing my book today! I am particularly happy because starting projects is something that I do easily and very often, but actually seeing a project through to the end is rare. I usually make excuses or get bored and move onto something new without finishing what I started.
This time I committed to writing my book and I followed this through to the end. I am now having my book edited and then I will just go over the edits and prepare the final draft. But it is a beautiful feeling to know that the hardest part, actually finishing the book, is complete. I will discuss tips that helped me with setting goals and sticking with them in another post.
I actually started writing this book shortly after having my son which is 8 years ago now. Being at home and raising my son gave me time to get to learn more about myself and during this time my sister brought to my attention that we had been raised in a narcissistic family. Narcissism was not something that I was familiar with at the time but once I began to look into it, so many things began to make sense. Through my research I also learned that I was codependent, and that was like the missing piece of the puzzle with getting to know myself.
I stopped and started writing my book many time over the years but I know that everything happens in divine timing. I am glad that I waited until I had done the necessary work on myself before I decided to share my story. Also I am no longer writing from a place of anger, I just want to help others who may have been through similar things. Online resources helped me immensely and having like minded people and a sense of community around you is invaluable when you are going through narcissistic abuse, or having to deal with a narcissist.
In my book I also write from the perspective of what to do if you are unable to, or do not want to go ‘no contact’ with the narcissist. I find that it is often said that you should cut all lines of communication with personality disordered individuals, but this is not always possible if there are children involved, or because of finances or circumstances you are unable to get away. Sometimes there are also parents involved and whilst it may be the best option for some, to go no contact with their parents, others may not want to do this.
I look forward to being able to share more with you and also letting you know the release date of my book.